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A New Post. Finally.

Choose one good thing to do in your life, make it a habit then let it change your life.

As simple as that. But not as simple to practice it.

It’s always a challenge to create a new routine, to change what you have usually done for years, especially when there’s no reason to do it but yourself and your wish to be a better person.

Sometimes you want to do lots of things in the same time then ended up doing none of them. Sometimes you just want to do one thing, start doing it then stop after some period of time (like the history of me and this blog).

It’s hard to start, it’s harder to keep doing what you have start. It needs a strong will, a determination, a hard work.

You know what I need right now? A nice lunch.


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Thoughts vs Habits

WatchThe quote above means we should pay attention to our thoughts, whether it’s negative or positive, because eventually it will affect our destiny. It also means we could create thoughts that will shape our destiny the way we want it to be.

Now, I perceive thought as paradigm, the way we see things. Whether we think something is possible or impossible, what we think we can or can’t do, whether we see the world as abundance of resources, goodness, and happiness for everyone or just a limited amount of them that we should compete to have some.

Whatever we believe, our words and actions will follow. When we consciously decided to reshape our thoughts, it will be easier to form actions that synchronize with it, which then become our habits, that build our character and finally our destiny.

It will not be as effective, or long lasting, if we decided to directly change our habits against what we truly believe. For example, when we think that wake up early is good but not that important for our life schedule and priorities, we might be able to do it for some amount of time, than we back on choosing to sleep longer instead. It will be so hard to keep on giving when you still strongly believe that you don’t have enough and it will just make your life even harder.

Of course, it still need a strong determination and discipline to build the new habit to make us get used to the new consciously chosen thoughts. It works like a circle that effect each other and then work together to shape our character and destiny.

Well, that’s how i see it. How about you?

Which One Would You Choose?

You could either do whatever makes you (only) feel good right now or do something good for your life now and in the future.

You could choose to snooze the alarm and sleep again or wake right up and do a morning jog or prepare a more decent breakfast.

You could choose to watch TV all night or write a new post in your dear blog.

You could choose to eat anything delicious in your mouth or start eating something that is good for your health.

You could choose to stay still or learn new things, build new skills and habits, do something that would change you and your life to the better.

The first choice is what most people take. Because it’s easy. The second one needs discipline.

Now, it’s okay to sit back and relax. But if that is all you do you will loose a chance to have a better life to enjoy.

To make a better choice you need to see the consequences. Imagine it in your head, then choose based on that image.

A short fun easy now that cause you a messy life and some troubled future or a long happy meaningful life.

I want the second image. I need to train the dragon (just because it’s a more cool word than discipline and I love the book :p).

Would you please share your experience in training your “dragon”?

So, it is 2014

Suddenly it’s January.

Yes, the year has change again. 2013 was over, 2014 is now here.

There are some things I start doing or do more in 2013.

I read more books (which actually is one of my new year resolution, so yeay! :D). You can preview the 2013 list here, or take a pick on 2014 list here.

I blog more. It stopped in the middle of the year, but it still more than the year before :p

I started jogging again (although I still found it hard to keep it as a routine).

I joined running races (about four of them :D). There were so many of them, especially in Jakarta that you can enter at least a race almost every month.

There are (of course) things that I meant to do or get done on the same year but finally did not.

I meant to keep blogging once a week (and at least publish one last post before the year ended).

I meant to clean up the room.

I meant to write more on my journal.

I meant to write a novel (even a short story will be nice).

I meant to update my dream book.

Oh, well. Like the quote said,

Today is the first day of the rest of your life. -Charles Dederich-

Let’s just do better in 2014. I wish you all an amazing year ahead and the ability to cherish each moment of the rest of your life. Cheers! :)

Let’s See

It’s been 11 days since my last post, and during those days, I’ve been jogging umm.. three times. Hahaha.

My shoes were broken after the first jogging, so I did wait for it to be fixed first. But the truth is, it’s just not easy to make myself doing it.

I got tired so easy. It needs some extra (will) power to finish 30 minutes of jogging (which still dominated by walking). I got tired before I even start sometimes, for imagining the exhaustion I’m about to have during the jogging. :p

I want to have a better stamina. And I believe this jogging thing (and any sport for that matter), could help me grow, both physically and mentally. It also does feels good every time I’m finished.

I think it wouldn’t take too long before I begin addicted to it again.

Actually, I can’t wait to jog again this afternoon.

Let’s see how many jogging I do after the next 11 days.

Or Not. 😀

I’m Still Working on It


Purpose. Priority. Dicipline.

Lack of the three cause a constant feeling of lacking the first.

Like for example for writing a better post rather than this brief last minute one.

I believe that time management is about self management.

While a good self management is based on a clear vision of yourself and what you want to achieve in life.

I’m still working on it.

Explaining is Learning

I had this one concept in my head but once I try to write it down I get confused. Have you ever been like that?

It’s either I don’t completely understand the concept or I just don’t know how to express it. It could be a bit of both. But I think it’s more to the first reason.

Sometimes we feel like we have a full grip on a subject, until comes the time for us to explain it to other people.

You see, the ability to make people understand a concept is part of the knowledge itself. The more knowledge you have, the easier you can explain it to people. If you could explain a complicated subject in a simple way that anyone can understand, than you an expert to that subject.

So when you want to know how well you understand something, try to explain it. First to yourself then to other people. If you don’t get confused or making anyone confused then maybe you really know what you’re talking about.

Explaining is actually helps you understand better about the subject too. It makes you think over about the subject, try to put it in words, see it in different point of views. That’s why I believe that explaining is learning. Writing is a way to explain things, so it also a way to learn.

Anyway, this is a week that I didn’t miss (you’ll understand if you read that post). 😀 The bad news is, I still haven’t finished any book.

Let’s hope that I can read more next week, and write more, and explain a concept better. In another word, to learn more.

Welcoming 2013

On December 2010 I couldn’t wait to quit my former job, so I’m wishing hard that the last day of the year would come as soon as possible, since that was the day I could officially quit.

I enjoyed 2011 so much. There were so many great things happened that year that I feel kinda sad when it ended.

2012 was sort of in the middle of it. I’m not really looking forward to it to end but I’m also not that sad that it will end in a few minutes now.

2012 was a year that  I learn a lot in. More changes that I had to deal with. New ways of seeing things and more understanding of some things that I might not even realize about before. And at the same time a bunch of new stuff I don’t understand, that makes me want to learn even more. I’ve come to this new level of sensitivity, that is hard to handle at first but actually make things easier afterwards.

There were lots of new things that come in my way without a warning. Some were exciting, some were shocking. Most were overwhelming.

I lost my spirit on improvement not so long after the year started. I stopped caring for a while, especially about my life. I stopped doing things that usually excites me. People come and go. Days passed by just like that. I felt tired and sad. Then somehow it was back. I started to get excited about things again. The sparks is so small I was afraid that it’s going to be gone anytime soon. But apparently it decided to stay. Slowly growing even bigger.

Then December came. It’s the month when everything feels normal again. And by normal I mean cool! I started the month by going to a workshop about hydroponics. A week after that I was enjoying this amazing show called INDONESIA:.  Two worth-to-watch Indonesian movie were start playing this month: “5 cm.” and “Habibie & Ainun” (I’ll add the link as soon as I finished writing the review). And I get to watch both of them! Both movies had been watched by more than 1 million viewers and still increasing. So proud! :)

I also started to write on my blog again. Not just one post but-after this one published-six posts in one month. I know it doesn’t sound much. But after no post at all for months, it really is a good progress for me.

At the end, I have to say that I’m grateful for this year. For all the lost and findings. For the hardships and happiness. For each changes happened in it. No matter how hard some of the changes were (or still are) I believe that each was necessary. I know that it was necessary.

Now that the year is about to end, another year is coming. A whole year to live in if I’m lucky enough. I’m actually pretty excited about 2013. My wish is to fill each day better than the day before. To enjoy each moment, make the most out of each second I got. To create more, give a lot more to a lot more people. To not forget to love myself first.

One of the thing that I wish I have done more this year is reading books. So I’m planning to read more books in 2013. To make it more exciting, I’m making this one page on my blog that is going to list every book I have finished reading that year. I asked my sister to do the same thing so we could share what we’ve read,  and motivate us to read even more. Feel free to join us. :)

I know it’s not the year that is important, it’s how we live every single time in our life with all we have. And that’s what I’ll keep learning to do, hoping to get it done better than before. This year, next year, and years after that.

2013, I’m ready to welcome you. Looking forward to have more good surprises and write some awesome stories in each of your pages. Bismillah.

“Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson-






I woke up this morning planning to write something, but then decide that it’s not the time for it yet.  It’s not out of fear though. Not this time 😉

I hope we all can find what we truly want and whether we really want it or just slightly interested 😀

Have a great weekend everyone! :)

First New Habit Of The Year!

I was not in a very good physical condition this week to the point that I have to stop my jogging activity for a while.

It’s been 35 days in a row. Some theories said that it took 21 days to create a new habit, some said 30 or 33. I guess I’ve passed them all 😉

So, I proudly say that I have finally manage to create this new habit I’ve been longing to create: Jogging (along with waking up early, taking an early bath, and having breakfast every morning ;D). At least the first part of it. :)

I’m not done yet of course. Before I stopped, I was still walk and jog, in an almost balance time length now, for 30 minutes. It was the third week of the Mr.Rudd program. I’m still somewhat recovering, so I decided not to jog yet. I will start the third week all over again on Monday.

quote_39I want to make sure that I’ll keep jogging for the rest of my life, as long as I can, because I believe that this habit is good for me. It has passed 21 days, and 30, and 33. It does feel lots easier to do it than when I first started it. It begins to be part of me. But to keep it that way, to get the advantages of it, I believe that I have to keep doing it.

I am pursuing excellence, and like Aristotle said, excellence is a habit. So here is my first new habit of the year that I’m willing to keep.

This is a good start, don’t you think? It will be followed by other good habits I’m going to build trough out the year I hope.

Welcome my new habit(s)!! Looking forward to be excellent with you! 😉